It is Satan who separates between husband and wife and no one else.
This is every house’s call that her mother in-law
or his mother is creating separation between us. Unfortunately you will
not find anybody speaking on it due to a reason, neither scholars of Islaam nor the society, but the voice tears the four walls only when a big loss takes place secretly inside the four walls like bride burning etc.
First of all we request and advise the
mothers and request those who read this to convey it to mothers that
please don’t put your son in such a situation where neither can he speak
nor keep quite. He cannot speak back his mother because Islaam does not
allow him; he cannot keep quite because injustice is happening to his
wife. If he speaks back to his mother in an unlike manner, he earns
direct ticket to hell, on the other hand if he remains silent on seeing
the oppression over his wife he earns hell; on both ways man is hell doomed.
There are endless reasons why this
situation arises in every home and turns into its worst in maximum
homes; the fundamental reason is that mother in-law is not happy with
her daughter in-law due to endless reasons.
A person said, “She becomes unhappy with
me when she sees me & my husband laughing with each other. She hates
when my husband plays with his children & in turn she oppresses me
in one or the other way.”
We see in Hindu society
society that daughter in-law is under the control of mother in-law in
every manner. She cannot move out, visit her parents without the
permission of her mother in-law even though her husband allows her.
Hindu tradition has damaged the Indian society at a very large extent.
It says husband is your god and you shall not return to your parents
home but dead even though you may be suffering a great amount of
oppression from husband or from your in-laws. Killing the female baby
child, bride burning, dowry given by the wife to her in-laws,
considering women less human than men etc are nothing but the teachings
of the Hindu culture.
Since we know the effect of bad company, Muslim society became part and
parcel of this ruthless culture because we were ignorant about Islaamic
teachings even at present.
The result of this rift within the four
walls has resulted to many disasters, one of them is ‘bride burning’. It
is man goes to work or for job in the morning, his wife is alone with
his mother and family members at home and so they set his wife in fire
by throwing at her kerosene oil. Sometimes husband is one of them who
sets his wife in fire but that is a separate topic.
Imagine when husband will hear that his
newly wedded wife is set on fire and died because of his mother what is
the reaction he will perform? Can he speak back to his mother in an
unlike manner? What do you expect from him to do? It is wastage of time
to call police because Indian police is the world’s most corrupt police and for what matter will he call police, to arrest his mother and family?
Many Muslims
wonder about why does Islaam not provide any solution for this tragedy.
Islaam does not address this issue like many other issues of society
because this issue was not there are the time of Prophet (sallallaahu
‘alayhi wa sallm). You may ask how is this possible? It is possible
because Islaam does not support joint family system like many third
world countries for example India, Pakistan
etc. In Islaam, family consists of two people and their children, even
though parents make their family with their children and children make
their family with their spouses and children.
This issue came out when you put your
mother and wife in the same place, and then they will start expecting
things from each other like the relation of mother and daughter. But
since this can never ever happen until the last day, things start to
turns into worst. Mothers feel jealous of their son playing and spending
time with his wife in secret, they start feeling they are alone esp.
when mother is a widow. A hug or kiss to wife and a spoon of honey turns
things down. This is indeed evil inside the majority of the mothers
that they feel in such a way in-fact they should be happy to see love
between them; but we know this doesn’t happen at all.
This post is growing down, I like to
write small post but this post was an emergency post as we don’t have
anything like that in real life and neither on web. Now while surfing I
saw some videos regarding the issue, watch them below and remember never
oppress and its Haraam to oppress:
In-Laws OR Out-Laws – Sh. Waleed Basyouni
Fight between My Mother & My Wife – What to Do? – Abu Mussab
Sheikh Danish Riyaz
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