 | "Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; …. |
My interest in this topic has taken many years. I have been looking in books of psychology and psychoanalysis for the effective ways to influence others positively. Who is not of us who does not deal with others and wish to leave a good effect on them? And who of us who does not wish to gain the trust of those around him and give a positive impression of his character? But what is the way to achieve that?
My brothers in Allah! I have found several techniques that man can use in his daily life and during his dealings with community. He will influence others positively and gain not only their confidence but their love. These techniques were introduced by Dale Carnegie, the most famous American writer and who was considered to be the best writer of the past century. He introduced these techniques as a result of tests conducted for more than thirty years.
What drew my attention was that what the writer introduced was exactly what the Quran had introduced!! He says in his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People":
The First Way: Avoid Arguments
The best way to win others and influence them is to avoid arguments! Try to shorten talk to the minimal possible, because arguments weaken trust and thus the power of your influence on others wanes.
